What I am about to say might sound preposterous, insensitive, extremely provocative and outrageously ridiculous – Or may be not…………
Hearing and reading the news about the twin attacks in Norway and the resulting deaths of young innocent lives taken in a cold blooded fashion because ‘he’ couldn’t or didn’t want multiculturalism to grow in his country, (read here http://nyti.ms/ok8QFs) I can’t help but wonder, like all of you, “How could he possibly justify his actions?”
As a mother, I can imagine the horrible pangs of grief that would be overcoming the parents of these children. As selfish as it sounds, whilst feeling the pain, I secretly wish that it never happens to my children and also thank that I am in a safe and secure place. I am sure you can relate to that.
I send my best wishes and prayers and love to all the people suffering as a result of this atrocity. At the same time, I cannot help but wonder about the guy who did this? or his parents who will have to live with the result of their son’s actions for the rest of their lives, living amongst the same people who were robbed of their children permanently?
I know it is too soon, too raw and too ugly to even consider ‘him’ or ‘his’ parents. But wouldn’t the grief of ‘his’ parents the same as the other parents? Not to mention the fear and guilt and shame that they would be facing………
My question to myself – have I got the capacity to extend the muscle of my compassion to include ‘him’ and ‘his’ parents? Am I being insensitive in asking this or even thinking about it?
Am I so rigid in my separatist, hateful/vengeful thinking that I forget I have the capacity of love and inclusiveness, that I have the privilege of an inherent wisdom (we all have that wisdom, whether we know it or not) – a wisdom that can bestow the gift of forgiveness laced with forbearance and compassion without discrimination?
Isn’t that what we witnessed in the Gandhi’s, the Mandela’s, the Mother Theresa’s and the Martin Luther King Jr’s of this world? They had the same blood running in them as me. Weren’t they made of the same 5 elements as me? So, if it is possible for them to forgive and extend love to people without selections, why won’t I do the same? ( I didn’t say ‘can’t’). I have a choice to make and when I choose that I can’t, I am not even recognising the capacity in me that will allow me to.
So, in the immediate hours of an immense tragedy, whilst we hold the victims in our prayers and extend love and sympathy, can we also do the same to the perpetrator and his family? In doing that, the walls in my heart of ‘them and us’, break and I see the unity and the oneness of all creation.
I am by no means condoning the actions of this man. His actions need to be and will be brought to justice and they should. However, in extending my compassion indiscriminately from one human to the other, recognizing that the frailness and faults are the same but different in magnitude, I am actually trying to honor the sacred thread of humanness and elevating it to the next level.
When I do that I am freeing my body from both internal and external disturbances, freeing from attachment and hatred. Any thoughts of hatred and anger only perpetuate the cycle – don’t you think?
So, in this tragic hours of distress, whether it be terrorism, shootings, bombings or famine, I am trying to live by the principles
“Love All, Serve All; Help Ever, Hurt Never” in Thought, Word and Deed”.
Will you join me in this – it will change us for good and the results will be tangible.
With love and respect