Preposterous!!!!!!!!!! or Is It?????

What I am about to say might sound preposterous, insensitive, extremely provocative and outrageously ridiculous – Or may be not…………

Hearing and reading the news about the twin attacks in Norway and the resulting deaths of young innocent lives taken in a cold blooded fashion because ‘he’ couldn’t or didn’t want multiculturalism to grow in his country, (read here I can’t help but wonder, like all of you, “How could he possibly justify his actions?”

As a mother, I can imagine the horrible pangs of grief that would be overcoming the parents of these children.  As selfish as it sounds, whilst feeling the pain, I secretly wish that it never happens to my children and also thank that I am in a safe and secure place.  I am sure you can relate to that.

I send my best wishes and prayers and love to all the people suffering as a result of this atrocity.  At the same time, I cannot help but wonder about the guy who did this? or his parents who will have to live with the result of their son’s actions for the rest of their lives, living amongst the same people who were robbed of their children permanently?

I know it is too soon, too raw and too ugly to even consider ‘him’ or ‘his’ parents.  But wouldn’t the grief of ‘his’ parents the same as the other parents? Not to mention the fear and guilt and shame that they would be facing………

My question to myself – have I got the capacity to extend the muscle of my compassion to include ‘him’ and ‘his’ parents?  Am I being insensitive in asking this or even thinking about it?

Am I so rigid in my separatist, hateful/vengeful thinking that I forget I have the capacity of love and inclusiveness, that I have the privilege of an inherent wisdom (we all have that wisdom, whether we know it or not) –  a wisdom that can bestow the gift of forgiveness laced with forbearance and compassion without discrimination?

Isn’t that what we witnessed in the Gandhi’s, the Mandela’s, the Mother Theresa’s and the Martin Luther King Jr’s of this world?  They had the same blood running in them as me.  Weren’t they made of the same 5 elements as me?  So, if it is possible for them to forgive and extend love to people without selections, why won’t I do the same? ( I didn’t say ‘can’t’).  I have a choice to make and when I choose that I can’t, I am not even recognising the capacity in me that will allow me to.

So, in the immediate hours of an immense tragedy, whilst we hold the victims in our prayers and extend love and sympathy, can we also do the same to the perpetrator and his family?  In doing that, the walls in my heart of ‘them and us’, break and I see the unity and the oneness of all creation.

I am by no means condoning the actions of this man.  His actions need to be and will be brought to justice and they should.  However, in extending my compassion indiscriminately from one human to the other, recognizing that the frailness and faults are the same but different in magnitude, I am actually trying to honor the sacred thread of humanness and elevating it to the next level.

When I do that I am freeing my body from both internal and external disturbances, freeing from attachment and hatred.  Any thoughts of hatred and anger only perpetuate the cycle – don’t you think?

So, in this tragic hours of distress, whether it be terrorism, shootings, bombings or famine, I am trying to live by the principles

“Love All, Serve All; Help Ever, Hurt Never” in Thought, Word and Deed”.

Will  you join me in this – it will change us for good and the results will be tangible.

With love and respect

Padma Ayyagari



About Padma Ayyagari

I am a Human Values Activist, passionate about and trying to live steeped in Spirituality. I live with the knowledge that Love is the undercurrent of all human life. I believe in Unity of Faiths, Unity in diversity and try and live my life with unity in thought, word and deed. Helping others to lead a life of practical spirituality that will give peace of mind is my passion and life purpose.
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4 Responses to Preposterous!!!!!!!!!! or Is It?????

  1. Vicki says:

    Exactly Padma! My feelings exactly, in fact, whilst hearing and reading about his, I not only felt grief and compassion to the victims, I felt grief and compassion to ALL involved, including the perpetrator.
    Otherwise, we are no better than he (his actions). He must be such a troubled soul!!!
    Love ALL, without distinction – revenge takes you to the same level as those you seek to get back at.


    • Thanks Vicki, I was a bit scared to post it, but I don’t have to be shy of the TRUTH, should I? Love is the answer for all the troubles in the world, no matter how insignificant in action it sounds.


  2. J-in-Paradise says:

    I too have been reluctant to comment on this event, for many of the reasons you have articulated so well. It is not my place to pass judgement; I do not know nor understand the circumstances of his life nor inner turmoil; I cannot understand another’s thoughts especially when I cannot speak with him directly. I am sure there was a logical process to his thinking; I am sure he saw a positive outcome from all the pain and havoc, even though we cannot see nor condone it.

    It is hard to remain philosophical and calm in the face of all the fear, trauma and pain. It is hard to be compassionate and warm and yet to stay open to the possibility of understanding such alien logic, and to forgive the inflicting of such pain.

    Thank you for writing what we find hard to express.


    • Thank you Joanne – it is difficult not to pass judgement, But it is more difficult to remain neutral and it is even most difficult to be forgiving. We can only try. Even maintaining the attitude that ‘I don’t understand’ therefore I won’t get caught in the judgement is a huge start. Thank you for reading



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