How do you connect?

The yearning to connect is common in all human beings.

We crave to connect with each other and through these connections, we try to find ourselves.

Is that yearning to connect with others becuase of a deeper yearning to connect with the Divine residing within?

Is that yearning so powerful because we feel disconnected with ourselves?

It is not yearning just to connect with people, we try to connect to things as well and sometimes these yearnings become addictions.   Addictions to substances, to possessions, to people – all because we are trying constantly to fill a gap within through that connection.

The ultimate connection is when we attempt to connect to the Divine – the definition of which eludes us.

We want to define the abstract as concrete and hold it in the bowl of our expectations.  The growing dissatisfaction and discontent, the increasing unhappiness to depression is all because we are unable to recognise and define that.

We need to connect within first and foremost and that grows naturally, organically into an outward connection.

So how do we connect?

More specifically, how do we connect to ourselves?

The physical distance betweeen the head and the heart might be half a meter at the most, but the actual connection between them is miles apart, pretty much non-existent for many.

To close that gap, we travel everywhere – physically, mentally, emotionally – trying to find things, people, stuff that could help us connect with ourselves.

Is there an easier way to close the gap?

Yes, it is right in the middle of the head and heart – the mouth or the spoken word.

When the words we speak are in congruence with our head and heart, when the thoughts of head are filtered through the heart and then spoken out, the gap gets shorter.

When the words said translate into actions, then the gap is closed completely.

In other words, connection to Self is established when what we think, feel, say and do are the same.  Purity and Unity in Thought, Word & Deed (Trikarana Suddhi as they say in Sanskrit) is the  mechanism that connects us to ourselves and to everybody and everything else.

When we are connected with our own hearts, there is a conscious gap between thoughts and action – this gap allows the thoughts to be filtered through the heart and then acted on.

When the awareness is firmly placed in the heart, what flows from the mouth and hands can only be loving, patient and helpful.  This filtering keeps the connection live and continuous.

An aware heart does not allow unkind acts to oneself or to others.  That is the connection we crave for and look for outside.

How do we filter our thoughts through the heart?

Meditation, Reflective journals, Daily Self-Audit are all simple yet profoundly effective spiritual practices.  Deliberately watching our Words is another practice that creates the filter.

So, filter all your thoughts through your heart and speak softly, lovingly and sweetly first towards yourself and then with others.  You will be amazed at the connection you will establish with yourself and through that your connections with others will blossom. The resulting contentment you would experience is beyond words.

Watch your words and connect to the Divine.  Try it.  No more harsh thoughts and words to yourself or to others.  Only comes with practice.  Leave comments on how you are going about it.

With Love and Respect

Padma Ayyagari


About Padma Ayyagari

I am a Human Values Activist, passionate about and trying to live steeped in Spirituality. I live with the knowledge that Love is the undercurrent of all human life. I believe in Unity of Faiths, Unity in diversity and try and live my life with unity in thought, word and deed. Helping others to lead a life of practical spirituality that will give peace of mind is my passion and life purpose.
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One Response to How do you connect?

  1. J-in-Paradise says:

    We have just observed the Jewish New year and Day of Atonement period, the season when most peoplel with Jewish ancestry will return to familial connection, and also find themselves examining their thoughts and their deeds whether or not they want to admit the spiritual value in this introspection. It’s so ingrained, this season of self-examination and reflection; not with the notion of ‘I am not worthy, I have failed’ but with the notion of ‘I did this, and that occurred, if I do something else, then a better result for all may occur in future’. People observe observe our customs on Day of Atonement and see us dressed in white, abstaining from food and drink and think we are in mourning, punishing ourselves in a last-ditch attempt to save ourselves from Doom – it’s far from that! Rather, for one 24-hour period we trust that we will be safe if we rest from physical concerns (apart from automatic ones, such as going to the toilet!) and focus on spiritual needs for a change.

    A day, a whole day, to be peaceful, rested, undisturbed, just focused on prayer and meditation as reality, with concern for one’s neighbour – their wellbeing and safety foremost, rather than your own. I’ve always found it hard to describe the charge I get from season, the spiritual boost to come back and face whatever challenge is awaiting at work or in my everyday life. The closest I have come is participating in a silent-meditation retreat and then returning home after 2 weeks, trying to fit back into normality.

    We are taught that change comes from the smallest of thoughts and deeds, indeed, from the *resolve* to change. This season brings the hope that change is within the grasp of each individual and that each individual is connected to all creation, and to the Divine in a very meaningful way.

    I wish you and your readers a sweet and peaceful New Year!


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