“Surrender” – supposedly a highest spiritual concept, throws many people off, making them hold & clutch even more tightly to what they have, feel, do and experience through struggles, despite struggles.
“Surrender” – is a loaded word.
Does Surrender mean –
- I put a stop to my doing?
- Inactive navel gazing waiting for the final moment to arrive?
- Losing control?
- Gutless, Spineless and Passionless?
- Inactive and Indifferent?
- Losing my identity and becoming this nameless, formless blob like Jello, waiting to be shaped, molded and tossed around?
Is my identity and existence only palpable through life’s anxieties, worries, pains, disappointments as well as felt joy, happiness and passion?
What am I surrendering, who am I surrendering to?
These questions rise like a tidal wave of resistance from within at the mere mention of the word.
Surrender means relinquishing and the popular way of defining it is as a defeat. The normal understanding of the word ‘surrender’ is that you give up because you can’t win. It creates a defeatist attitude. Now, we as a species do not like the word ‘defeated’ or ‘submissive’. We do not like to bend. Our ego wants to stand tall under all circumstances. So, without the qualifying words of “Higher Power” or “God” or however else one defines the Supreme or not, surrender on its own seems like a lonely defeatist, submissive word that evokes sadness and loss of control.
So, we say ‘Surrender to your Higher Power’, and that is a dichotomy because we often don’t know or are not willing to define or accept that ‘Higher Power’. Is it someone or something outside of ourselves? Again the ego kicks in and screams “But I am it”, “I am doing everything”, “I don’t want to be ignored” etc.,etc.,
Surrender is silencing that screaming voice in the head and descending into the heart where the tiny whispers of conscience hide shyly waiting to be asked, ready to answer. That shy small voice from the depths of the heart always knows right from wrong, good from bad. Not just polarities of life but it also knows how to transcend the polarities and truly understand that the polarities are two sides of same coin, that one cannot exist without the other.
Bad times don’t last, neither do good times. Troubles always will be followed by peaceful times and vice versa. When our head drives us, we go up and down riding the waves of life’s dichotomies, Ore less and directionless. Accepting that tiny voice’s argument that whatever it is that I am experiencing “that too shall pass” is Surrender.
Surrender is the Ore that guides the boat of our life through the waves of Joy & Sorrow, Pain & Pleasure, without overturning.
Do you agree?
We will explore Who, What and How of Surrender in Part II tomorrow. If you have any answers or comments, please leave them here and we can compare notes after Part II of How do I surrender?
With Love and Respect