A beautiful poem by 13th century poet Matchild of Magdeburg inspired me to question myself. I will post the poem in here as well.
What am I desiring? What are you desiring?
Are you desiring comfort, security, safety, guarantee of existence through material, impermanent stuff?
Are you desiring comfort, security, safety, guarantee of existence through your relationships with others who are desiring the same?
Are you desiring pain free, suffering less life through these impermanent and materialistic relationships to things and people?
We all desire the same but with different intensity and focus. I know I do.
Somewhere in that web of desires, there is a pocket that is craving for happiness and peace for self and family.
No matter how trapped we think we are in the big web of relationships to things and people, ultimately we are all desiring to be in that tiny pocket of the massive web – the pocket that quivers wildly every now and then as the breeze of the Divine touches it asking to break free from the rest of web and join with it so our love can be perfected free from the web of pain and suffering.
Isn’t that the journey we are actually on? A desire to create and enjoy lasting happiness and peace for us?
But that desire is buried under the layers of our immediate desires. What is your immediate desire that masquerades the real desire?
I know my immediate desire is to break free from the intense egoistic attachments that make me feel indispensable.
If I stop thinking I am indispensable to my family and not anticipate every need of its members and provide in advance, while reeling in the need for recognition, resenting that feeling at the same time, then, perhaps, I can understand the real desire behind the desire – a desire to be happy, to be free, to be peaceful, to be – just TO BE.
What is stopping me from doing that? The egotistic me that thinks I am needed/wanted/required by others to lead their lives. Really?
Truth is – They do and they don’t – need me, want me and require me.
I certainly don’t need that for my existence. Oh what a blow to my ego? What would I be if I am not a wife, mother, sister, daughter to someone? Who would I be if don’t have those roles to define myself and identify with? How am I to derive happiness and feel the love without playing a role?
Do I desire to be in these roles in order to perfect my love? Is that the only way I can experience love – in relationship to something? A love that can easily turn into a dislike or even hatred – is that real love? or is it a desire to protect my identity that is changing constantly? Can I detach from that clingy desire that makes me forget who I truly am…
Metchild of Magdeburg (1207> – 1282> or 1297?) in her poem “God Speaks to the Soul” says
“And God said to the Soul:
I desired you before the world began.
I desire you now
As you desire me.
And where desire of two come together
There love is perfected”
So what am I desiring then? Do I really desire to come together with Divine to perfect my love? Not consciously. My desire and I am sure yours too is to live in this day to day life with that perfect partner, lover, child, sibling etc., who will exactly reciprocate our love the way we give.
In that desire arises the unrecognized competition that says – I have given, why can’t you give back in exact proportion and intensity? Is that a sustainable desire that will help perfect love or find lasting happiness?
When the desire of two coming together is laced with expectations and attachments – it cannot last nor can that love be perfected.
Well the answer, at least, theoretically would be – I AM…
Every word I fill in after that I AM… is a role I created in this drama of attachment and entanglement of desires I play. All I need really is to be aware of those roles i fill in whilst rooted in my being ‘I Am.’
If my prime desire to fill in the blank after I AM is LOVE – how would I behave? Worth trying?
When I AM LOVE, my desire would be to merge with that LOVE and that is the only desire I am born with to fulfill. Every other desire in this journey is a stepping stone to recognize that true desire for which we are born.
As the poet Kabir said
My body is flooded
With the flame of Love.
My soul lives in
A furnace of bliss.
Fills my mouth,
And fans through all things
With each outbreath.”
Can we desire for that perfect LOVE only and break free from the trapped web of attachments and expectations?
What do you think? Is it easy, worth trying? Would love to hear your thoughts…
Until next time
With Love and Respect